ESFP Relationships

ESFPs are life loving, fun loving people-centric thrill seekers, with a real caring side and a desire to offer practical, emotional help. They throw themselves into relationships and will be positive to be around. ESFPs are so expressive and giving, always there in a crisis when people need them yet there is a far more emotional side which means that the ESFP can also easily get hurt.

Although chatty, open and very expressive the ESFP will keep their own private feelings to themselves and you may be surprised to find that what you see is not the whole picture as the ESFP may be very talkative but they are not so keen to share more private, personal information. There is a more reserved side but only those allowed close would see this. The ESFP is driven by a desire to help and to please and they need to know they have made a tangible contribution as they struggle with complexity and anything they perceive as convoluted, ethereal or woolly. In a crisis, the ESFP will be there, taking charge, offering support, revelling in their ability to help, loving the drama with their energies and infectious enthusiasm.

The more sensitive side means that the ESFP will take criticism very personally and to heart, and they do not like conflict, seeing their job as to bring peace and harmony. The ESFP will not allow conflict to occur and they will use their incredible likeability and charm to make sure that conflict is nipped in the bud early so that harmony is restored and people are happy. ESFPs will be excellent at diffusing tension in difficult situations as they find confrontation uncomfortable and their need for immediacy mean they just have to jump in and sort it all out right now. For the ESFP there is a difference between conflict between themselves and other people, they take as personal criticism, and conflict BETWEEN other people, which they love to resolve. 

In personal relationships the ESFP may spend so much time looking after others that they may struggle with their own, personal difficulties as they rarely rely on any objective evidence for decision-making and so they can be taken advantage of. They will, however at all times look on the positive, and a defining characteristic is the strong ability to ‘bounce back!’