The ‘Thinking vs. Feeling’ (T vs. F) dichotomy is an interesting one, as it’s all about how we make decisions. Thinking types (Ts) make decisions with their head: logical, factual, and more direct. Feeling types (Fs) make decisions with their heart: based on their values, feelings of people (including themselves) and emotion. This does however lead to a few very common misconceptions:
Feeling types are soft
Because Fs make more emotional decisions, people often think that they’re soft, friendly and sometimes even a ‘bit of a push-over’, but this is just not the case. In fact, Fs can be quite crusading, striving to do the ‘right thing’ in the face of all sense and logic. If someone’s being bullied in the workplace, you can bet that a strong F will step in and put things right, even if it means sticking their own head out. In fact, they won’t even see it that way, as that would be too logical, and for an F someone’s values being trodden on would transcend all logic. You might actually be quite shocked when your gentle, quiet friend that you thought would turn away at this type of situation jumps in and makes a hard push to put things right.
Feeling types can’t make tough decisions
The crusading side of Fs may drive them to make decisions which are logically difficult to weigh-up. Motivated to ‘do the right thing’, an F will still take into account data, but this will be quickly overridden if there is a strong sense of right or wrong according to their values. In this sense they may be seen as full on or full off depending on how strong their values are. Breaking up with someone or quitting a job may seem like a difficult decision to make, but if you’re an F and it’s the ‘right thing to do’, you’ll probably hit a point and just go with it.
Feeling types are all friendly
Being seen as ‘friendly’ is all about how you communicate and how you leave people feeling. In fact, you can be an F that is selfish (whose values mostly relate to themselves) and quite the opposite will occur. The same is often inversely true for this misconception; people may think because someone is warm and friendly they’re an F, but actually there’s more at play. Remember, the T – F scale is about how you make decisions, not how much warmth you exude. Warm Ts may shock Fs every so often by making logical and cold decisions, while remaining friendly, leaving the F in a state of “but I thought they liked me?”. For a T it isn’t about like or dislike, which is more common for an F, but more about logic and reasoning.
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